43 Birthday Lessons

I am 43 yall!!!!! I can not believe it. When I was younger, I remember looking at people when they said they were 40 somethin' and giving them the sympathy smile. Yet, here I am! Yes, 43 is definitely older and with age comes wisdom. I have learned so much, grown so much, and been stretched in more ways than one. Here are 43 lessons I've learned along the way:


  1. Enjoy life right now, you are the youngest you will ever be.

  2. Love yourself way more than others both in thoughts and in action.

  3. Let go of control, you are only disappointing yourself.

  4. Be comfortable sitting with your emotions until you can process them and speak clearly.

  5. Have compassion for others and try to listen and understand.

  6. Forgive yourself. You did the best you could at the time.

  7. Research shows that 90% of illness and disease are stress related. Let it go!

  8. Show grace to others; you would the same energy reciprocated to you.

  9. Be a critical thinker, not critical of others.

  10. The idea is not to live forever, but to create something that will.

  11. Find your core values; you may waiver but will always come back to them.

  12. Take care of your physical and mental health. Both need healthy workouts in order to work properly.

  13. Do not let the pain others have caused you diminish your heart or belief in yourself.

  14. Enjoy the moment; it will be over when you wake up.

  15. Get out of your own head.

  16. If you always do what you've always done, you'll always be what you've always been.

  17. Peace arrives when you cannot change the things you have no control over.

  18. Count your blessings; it shifts your perspective.

  19. It's okay to ask for help.

  20. Love yourself the way you wish someone else did.

  21. Some days you will conquer the world and other days you will only manage to take a shower; both are enough.

  22. You don't have to be the best in order to matter.

  23. Your healing is your own responsibility.

  24. Speaking your truth is your responsibility as well.

  25. Learn to repair and not to run away.

  26. Strong relationship skills consist of being a good listener, validator, good eye contact, using kind words, and demonstrating physical connections i.e. a hug, kiss, back rub. This is not just a romantic relationship, remember that.

  27. Stop avoiding conflict. Things will never get better if the person is unaware. Choose clarity.

  28. Remember your feelings are valid, but so are the other person's feelings.

  29. Heal from trauma. Heal from trauma. Heal from trauma.

  30. Your entire life can change in a year. Love yourself enough to know you deserve more, be brave enough to demand more, and be disciplined and consistent enough to work for more.

  31. You will never forget a person who came to you with a torch in the dark. Thank them and remember those are your peeps.

  32. Remind yourself how blessed you are to be alive! Health is wealth!

  33. You don't need permission to change.

  34. You can't talk to everyone about everything.

  35. Authenticity equals freedom. Freely be who you are and live in that truth!

  36. You will never find your passion in others. It comes from within.

  37. If not now, when?

  38. If you learn to love your scars, they will love you back and serve your best interests.

  39. Believe in your flyness, conquer your shyness.

  40. Not all storms come to disrupt your life; some come to clear your path.

  41. It's okay to take a break, but not okay to quit.

  42. You are worthy!!! Worthy of your dreams, success, and abundance.

  43. Love your God with all your mind, all your heart, and all your soul. Sometimes God will be all you have. Pray and hold on tight to your best friend; it's a love like no other.





What I'm reading..... "People Can't Drive You Crazy If you Don't Give Them The Keys," by Mike Bechtle.


What I'm Cooking..... Nothing today because it's my birthday, but I will have a smoothie. Check out my smoothie recipe under wellness.


What I'm thinking..... I have the greatest friends and hubby in the world. We always get together and celebrate like we are still forever young. However, we are reminded the next day just how old we really are!


What I'm loving..... I'm loving me a little more today. I can look back and hug myself on where I was a year ago and where I am today. Celebrate the little things and keep moving forward.


What I'm praying..... for God to continue to reveal himself to me and show me exactly what it is He wants me to do in this next journey around the sun. I'm ready!


Thank you all for celebrating this last year with me and supporting me! All of you words of encouragement, questions, kindness, and love are truly appreciated!! Enjoy your Memorial day. I will be celebrating both! Be safe and have fun!

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